Relationship Issues

Are you…

  • suspicious or have discovered that your partner has had an affair?
  • heartbroken that your partner has left you?
  • jealous for no reason?
  • feeling as if your friends and family don’t want to hear about it anymore?
  • worried that you will never feel better?

Or, are you…

  • so unhappy in your relationship you think of leaving but not sure if you should?
  • wondering if you can keep living like this?
  • thinking of having an affair, or already having an affair?
  • deciding whether your primary relationship is worth saving?

I can give you a safe space that you can talk about all of this, as much as you want.  I can help you develop criteria for making a decision about what to do in your relationship.  I can give you tools to move past the pain and get your life back.

Frequently Asked Questions

Shouldn’t I just be able to talk to my friends?

A conversation with a good friend can work out a lot of life’s issues.   But I am sure that you have already been doing this, and still feel stuck or upset.  Maybe this is an issue that you can’t discuss with your friends.  Maybe you think your friends are sick of hearing about it.

The first significant difference between a friend and a therapist is confidentiality.  As a licensed therapist, I am bound by fairly strict rules of confidentiality, which means that I am not ethically or legally allowed to discuss what goes on in session (or even the fact that’s you’re coming to therapy at all) except in a small number of very specific situations.  What happens in therapy stays in therapy.

The second significant difference is that I am not part of the normal flow of your life and therefore I can offer an objective perspective.  Your friends and family are impacted by your decisions.   This can either consciously or subconsciously affect the advice and guidance they give you.   Also, some friends just tend to tell you what they think you want to hear or what they wished they had done in a similar situation.   The point is, it ends up being more about them than about you.  Therapy is about you.

Do I really need therapy?  I can usually handle my problems.

They say that the definition of crazy is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.   I think that we all get stuck sometimes.  The way we have solved problems in the past isn’t working anymore—or is making the situation worse.  Counseling can help you see things from a different perspective and help you learn new ways of coping.

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